The #1 Reason You Should Stop Striving for Perfection | #MONDAYMAGIC ✨

My lady boss perspective

Striving for perfection is inspiring – right? 🤷🏻‍♀️ NOPE! It seems to actually be the opposite. As successful women, we always feel like we need to be one step ahead of everyone else – especially our male coworkers. So, we work the longest hours, let the subtle sexism go so we don’t seem difficult, and put out product that is “perfect” so our bosses have no choice but to recognize and promote us. 🤦🏻‍♀️

There are many problems with this scenario, but most importantly as female leaders we are INFLUENTIAL WOMEN. 💪🏻 There still aren’t nearly enough of us taking the highest seats in our companies. Therefore, we are influencing the women coming up behind us, as well as conditioning our bosses to what they should expect from women in leadership. The #1 reason why we should stop striving for perfection is so we do not continue perpetuating this unrealistic ideal of “perfection”.

We can still be the best by focusing on the best version of ourselves each day, being supportive leaders, failing forward, and embracing the top leadership qualities – most of which come naturally to female leaders. ☝🏻

Initiative. Honesty. Integrity. Tradition. Develops others. Self-development. Inspiring. Motivating. Relationship-building. Collaboration. Teamwork. Passion. Purpose. Strategic.

Now, take it from some of the most influential women

This week I’ve come across several pieces from some of the most influential women breaking down this myth of perfection.

This one is a bit of an oldie, but so relevant. Julie Zeilinger, just 19 years old at the time, wrote a guest blog with Forbes titled, “Why Millennial Women Do Not Want To Lead“. She shares from a young millennial woman’s perspective, exactly why young women are shying away from taking leadership roles – even after all of the hard work of the successful women who came before us.

Just this week I finished listening to “Mistakes I Made At Work” by Jessica Bacal on Audible. (I realized I could actually get through the the books I’ve been meaning to read by listening to them while I’m driving or exercising!) This was a recommendation from one of my favorite women, Emilie Aries of Bossed Up, and I’m so glad she shared. Jessica brought together stories from 25 of the most successful women focused on the biggest mistakes they’ve made in their careers, with the idea that we are even more inspired and empowered by these stories of overcoming barriers women in the workplace face and thriving. Poppy Johnson does a great review here if you don’t have time to read (or listen) to this one.

Lastly, I came across this incredibly powerful talk from TED2016 by Reshma Saujani (CEO of Girls Who Code) titled, “Teach girls bravery, not perfection”. Major props to you Reshma for coining the term, “The Bravery Deficit”.

 

So What Now?

Think of one thing you can do today that will show BRAVERY instead of perfection. Share it with us in the comments! 👩🏻‍💻

Share this post with another female leader who needs to let go of the idea of perfection! 👯‍♀️

Talk soon 👋🏻

Nikki